Teenagers often act as though they have no regard for anyone or anything but themselves and things that belong to them. Manners they might have had when they were younger seem to have gone out the window and back-talk is an everyday occurrence. It can be “heart breaking” especially when we reflect back at their innocence during the early years. When we say we love our children very much, automatically our hand touches the heart-the chest area. This is the place which stores all our feelings of compassion and love towards others – which can be further explained as the harmony of relationship with others. It is said that all good,positive,harmonious relationship with all the people associated with you like your kids/parents/in-laws/spouse/siblings/employers/employees will definitely do good to the heart. It is exactly opposite the other way – which means that if there is a lot of disharmony around you or with the people associated with you, it takes a toll on the rhythm of your heart beats. Its all musical. We do not enjoy the music where the rhythm goes constantly wrong. When the rhythm of your heart beat goes wrong, you are stepping into the world of diseases.
Compassion is happiness in its highest form. Compassion is ultimately not about helping others, it’s about helping yourself live a healthy, fulfilling, happy and contented life. Your life is of course connected to others, and a compassionate/successful person is more willing to help others.
Here are a few suggestions that can change us towards the betterment of our overall well-being.
1. Love is the most powerful force in the Universe. Love is the creative force that makes the impossible possible.
2. Let us resort to Respectful Parenting. Parents who treat their children with respect will likely earn the respect and love of their children
3. Next time when you get angry – ask yourself- Does it create more love, more connection, more communication ? – Beware.. ANGER is 99.99 % DANGER
4. As Louis Hay – the great author puts it – “express gratitude and thanksgiving every day, in every way.” Actually when you say “I am so thankful to you” with all your heart, you raise the postive vibrations around you. You create positive energy that emanates out from you and returns to you as wonderful experiences when the people near you starts liking you because you’re such a joy and delight to be around. Again hiring Louise Hay’s golden words, “an attitude of gratitude has the power to turn challenges into possibilities, problems into solutions, and losses into gains.”
5.Yoga and meditation are amazing ways to help your body deal with the impact of everyday stress in our life.
6.The last and the most important one is the Golden Rule of Acceptance – We don’t have to meditate to accept somebody. For example, when we get married we just blindly accept the other person as our partner for life – I mean to say that we are going to trust this person for a life-time. In a state of acceptance we take responsibility for our lives along with others who have joined us. The power of acceptance and its all positives can be experienced when you ACCEPT AND TRUST . Acceptance requires Trust. (Don’t wait to see GOD to accept HIM. ACCEPT HIM WITH ALL TRUST AND EXPERIENCE THE DIVINE GRACE)
You don’t need to analyze the process – just trust. ” Accept your parents, your siblings, your partner, your friends, your co workers, your bosses, teachers, and yourself. Understand and accept yourself – for everything, including not being to accept some people just yet. When you are ready to accept – you will be in a state of grace.” (Adapted from The Eight Human Talents, by Gurmukh.)
As Dalai Lama puts it ” Cultivating a close, warmhearted feeling for others automatically puts the mind at ease. It helps remove whatever fears or insecurities we may have and gives us the strength to cope with any obstacles we encounter. It is the principal source of success in life. “