#50- A Clarification – Dharmo Rakshathi Rakshitaha

This post is a clarification to a question posted in the topic #34-YOU CAN’T TAKE ANYTHING

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Question

I am at 31 now with good salary but no property as of now ..I am satisfied & living happily , but when i think about the future as we need to do some basic property for my child , it puts me the pressure again & I am going into worries..How to come out of this ????
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As a family man you have the responsibility to provide for the family and see their well being. That is your Dharma. Dharmo Rakshathi Rakshitaha, is the saying. If you do your Dharma, Dharma in turn takes care of your life. Live in the moment necessarily means that, the joy and happiness experienced by you at a given moment, has to be thoroughly enjoyed. For instance, I feel immensely gratified and blessed when I do annadaanam and thoroughly enjoy the bliss that is passed on to me when I see the happiness in their face enjoying their sumptuous lunch. And while leaving when many of them come to us to give a word of thanks and say “May you be blessed to provide more and more annadaanam,”  my heart jumps in joy. This is what I’m leaving back for my kids other than materialistic properties. When I’m doing this Dharma, which every human is supposed to do, I’m 100% sure that the same Dharma sees that my kids are never starved. The same is the case when I provide for education for a child. By educating a kid, whose parents cannot afford, you are actually giving life to a child. His parents blessings are more than enough for my kids to come up in life.

Life is full of challenges and what matters most is the confidence and courage you have to face it. So personally, in my case, I’m not worried about my future or my kids future. Because I see to it that, whatever I do, I thoroughly enjoy the doing process and at the same time see to it that I serve the society in my own small way while doing it. That’s why I started a blog on Music and Spirituality. I love music, I teach music,I learn music and whatever little knowledge I have accumulated till now related to this art form is given back to the society or passionate learners generously.

My kids grow seeing us and the way we live. Our life is materialistic to the bear minimum level. Till now, we have never thought of building a property for our kids. Instead, we are keen in educating them to our best and at the same time instill some true moral values in them which is very much aligned to the perfect Indian Culture and Tradition. That includes not just building assets for kids, but also teaching them high moral values as mentioned in ancient scriptures, adhering to truth and honesty always, kindness to fellow beings, etc. This we do not preach to them, but we live our life aligned to these ideals. We enjoy the process and never think of the results.

As, Lord Krishna says

कर्मण्येवाधिकारस्ते मा फलेषु कदाचन । मा कर्मफलहेतुर्भुर्मा ते संगोऽस्त्वकर्मणि ॥

Bhagavad Gita, Chapter II, Verse 47

 karmany evadhikaras te: कर्मणये वाधिकारस्ते: you have a right to work only
ma phalesu kadachana: मां फलेषु कदाचन: but have no right to the fruits thereof
ma karma-phala-hetur bhur: मां कर्मफलहेतुर्भू: let not the fruits be the motive of doing karmas
ma te sango ’stv akarmani: मांते संङगोस्त्वकर्मणि: let yourself not be attached to inaction.  

Quoting Vivekananda.

Let us be beyond the common worldly motives. To work you have the right, but not to the fruits thereof.” Man can train himself to know and to practice that. Let us do good because it is good to do good. 🙂 

How hard it is to arrive at this sort of non-attachment! Therefore Krishna shows us the lower ways and methods. The easiest way for everyone is to do [his or her] work and not take the results. It is our desire that binds us. If we take the results of actions, whether good or evil, we will have to bear them. But if we work not for ourselves, but all for the glory of the Lord, the results will take care of themselves. The soldier works for no results. He does his duty. If defeat comes, it belongs to the general, not to the soldier. We do our duty for love’s sake — love for the general, love for the Lord.

So, do your Dharma towards your children, wife and parents with lot of love and affection and enjoy the process. Once you begin to enjoy the process of doing, rather than focusing on the end result, YOU LIVE IN THE MOMENT ! 🙂 

Hope my suggestions makes some sense.

Happy Living !! 

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10 thoughts on “#50- A Clarification – Dharmo Rakshathi Rakshitaha

  1. I am at 31 now with good salary but no property as of now ..I am satisfied & living happily , but when i think about the future as we need to do some basic property for my child , it puts me the pressure again & I am going into worries..How to come out of this ????

    first of all you are not satisfied and happy.hence the question.hence the worries about the future.without accepting this fact i don’t think that you will be able to move ahead.without looking into the root causes of why you are not satisfied and happy ,no any answer,whether it is from krishna or from anybody else,any scriptures or from any outside source,is not going to help.till now nobody has become came out of those worries you mentioned by any such answers.but almost all of us have pretended that we got the answer and we are happy and satisfied.all goes wrong,simply because of the first step was wrong,that we miss to understand that we are not happy and satisfied.dear friend,just look into it as close as possible,as lovingly as possible,as slowly as possible.you may get some clue.best of luck.lv.dhyan tarpan

    • Dear Sir,

      I respect your view that one needs to reflect on the root cause of the worries. However, I beg to disagree on your drastic conclusion that “till now nobody has become came out of those worries you mentioned by any such answers”. “Absence of evidence” never means “Evidence of absence”. In other words, just because I may not have experienced certain things I can never summarily negate the validity those things. In my own life, I have gone through experiences where certain answers that I got at certain times from certain sources (people, books, etc.,) settled quite a few inner conflicts within me, even though I still find some of those answers too profound to fathom. This is just my two cents.

  2. You have nailed it. ‘Living in the moment’ and acting as a mere agent (without the ego of ‘the doer’), going about our ‘swadharma’ in silence and dedication — you have said it all in this article. For the person who raised the question, there could not have been a better counsel.

  3. Hello Dhyan tarpan

    I strongly disagree with you that scriptures or the quote as recited by Lord Krishna in Bhagavad Gita is NOT GOING TO HELP. May be , it will never help those people who have not read or understood Bhagavad Gita. Since Many people do not know that such concepts exists, due to their ignorance about scriptures, it doesn’t mean that the entire concept is wrong and does not exist.

    HOW CAN YOU GIVE A BLANKET ANSWER THAT NOBODY HAS GOT A SOLUTION FOR THEIR QUERIES BY READING THESE SCRIPTURES. IF YOU HAVE NOT GOT ANY SOLUTION, YOU SAY, I HAVE NOT GOT ANY ANSWER TILL NOW. NOT EVERYBODY.

    BUT THERE ARE PEOPLE WHO HAVE GENUINELY FOUND ANSWERS FOR ALL THEIR PROBLEMS IN LIFE FROM SCRIPTURES.

  4. You have nailed it. ‘Live in the moment’, focus on action, ‘What you give comes back to you with interest’ – there could not have been a better counsel than these, to the questioner. When the batsman plays by the merit of the ball, runs flow like grace, in abundance and without a hurdle.

  5. hi friends
    my joy for your responses.
    let me try to make it clear more.
    when i say that no scriptures or anything from outside has not solved anybody’s issues/worries in life,i mean intrinsically those issues are of very individual,deeper within.if one is intelligent and sincere,he can UTILIZE anything whether it is scriptures or anything for his exploration into himself.somany people must have utilised geeta or koran or anything like that,but not as readymade answers,but as some fingers pointing to the moon.if geeta (or any such scriptures)has any significance,it is this very clarity of it’s sharp insights that it never allows anyone to cling on it or believe it,rather it pushes one unto himself,again and again.it reminds us very clearly that one can quench his thirst only he himself drinks water.no substitution won’t work.but believers always hide everything,cover up everything ,colour everything with their beliefs.and finally they deceive themselves that their problems are solved.
    and anybody is free to think that people get answers from outside.but first of all do they have a clear cut question first ?
    lv guys
    dn trpn

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